Did I say that change was easy? I did not mean to suggest that is the case. In my last post, Change: The Transitioning Woman, Part I, I ended with “Go through TRANSITION, get to the other side and enjoy every moment as you embrace CHANGE.” I think it sounded as if I was suggesting – poof, it’s over, you’ve transitioned!
This is definitely not the case, especially when our heart is on the line or there are highly emotional issues at stake, daunting odds, overwhelming circumstances or all consuming fear. The process must be performed one moment at a time. Transitions can take moments, days, months or years to be processed to completion.
Small actions are required to fully transform and emerge. Remember change is constant. Either you move through the process or you don’t. You can always stay where you are or get stuck where you are. The world and all of its stuff will still continue to change around you.
Just as the butterfly metamorphoses slowly from its tight cocoon and; a seed changes from the darkest depths of soil and blooms into a beautiful flower, all of this takes time.
So too does it take time for us to change or transition from a state we were in to the place we desire to be. It’s that happy place or blissfullness we want, desire or dream of – ultimately, to reach that feeling of what I believe is the Presence of God.
All you need to do is feel Presence. You don’t have to feel good, you just need to feel God.”Nikki Walton, aUTHOR, PSYCHOTHERAPIST & TV personality – from a live stream meditation, July 27, 2019
It is also my belief that process must be practiced. In most cases our mind set requires change for us to feel better and the transition to occur.
I suggest that you can find that place of power within you. It takes place in moments of stillness when you wake up and give gratitude, pray and meditate, walk peacefully through out the day, rid yourself of distractions, quieting the negative stories circling around your mind and, for me, journaling or writing the thoughts away.
As God, the Universe, Source (insert your belief) takes over all of that stinkin’ thinking from your mind be assured that changes will occur and the transition is well on its way.
Everything you perceive is your presence. Today, look deeply into every moment and perceive divine presence. Recognize each circumstance as having a particular bearing on your soul. Over time, this practice will bring you presence of mind and make manifest your own catalytic presence.Alexandra katehakis, mirror of intamacy: daily reflections on emotional and erotic intelligence
“If your mind carries a heavy burden of past, you will experience more of the same. The past perpetuates itself through lack of presence. The quality of your consciousness at this moment is what shapes the future.”Eckhart Tolle, The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment
As one of the most optimistic people walking around and one who has seen a fair share of stuff, I know the process of “being” works. Practically, the objective is to take action in small steps for the purposes of healing, growth and ultimate happiness.
Again, the process looks like this:
- Contemplative prayer or meditation when you wake up
- Gratitude (Speak it, whispering it or journal it)
- Walking or running
- Being still (even through really bad, sad, disappointing times, don’t react)
- Be Here Now (not in the past or future)
Results may take place and feel like this:
- A shift – slight movement in thoughts
- Calibration – a reset of thinking
- High frequency – gaining more energy
- A smile – a grin that is worn just because
Be patient. Trust and believe change through yet another transition will have you flying like that Beautiful Butterfly you are!
-Kathy A. Hampton, Founder & Managing Director of Wellside Retreats firstname.lastname@example.org | FB: @wellsideretreats | IG: wellsideretreats
PLEASE NOTE: THIS IS THE SECOND OF A THREE PART POST ON CHNAGE: THE TRANSITIONING WOMAN